Inspiring stories of transformation through Focusing

chardcloseI was just gathering material for the upcoming Advanced Focusing Course participants, a course that will focus on how to support real and lasting change within our clients. The personal stories from the latest focusing journal, the FOLIO are such inspiring examples of how focusing leads to transformation, I thought you might all be interested. Here is a link to FOLIO editor Paula Nowick’s dramatic story of how focusing helped her to come to terms with her son’s devastating addiction. The story illustrates well how sometimes when you can’t change a situation, the best thing to do is change how you are within it, and the the route to this kind of shift is not through things you might ordinarily try.

If you want to read more stories like this one, the entire issue is available for free on the Focusing Institute web site. Included are 47 personal stories of how focusing led to a major ‘aha’ moment.

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Befriend Yourself: Tame your inner critic

Are you your own best friend… or your own worst enemy? Think about it for a minute before you answer. Take your inner temperature. Is it warm and comfortable in there — or are you greeted by thoughts that are critical or demanding? Most of us reserve our most impossible demands and disparaging comments for ourselves.

It doesn’t have to be that way. You can change your inner landscape so that it supports you in all that you do. So that no matter what is happening on the outside, your inner world feels safe and supportive, like a good friend.

Befriending the Inner Critic

One of the most important steps to take to improve your inner landscape is to develop a better relationship with your inner critic. Everyone I’ve met has one: an inner voice that is constantly critical, demanding, even punishing at times. Generally, the more trauma and abuse one has suffered, the louder and nastier their inner critic.

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